The Anti-Couch Challenge: How to Invite Opportunity into Your Day
Have you ever felt lonely, disconnected, misunderstood, distant or just out of sync even when surrounded by people?
It’s easy to point to the outside world:
“They don’t get me.”
“They disappointed me.”
“They don’t value me.”
“They confuse me.”
“They don’t really love me”
And those feelings are valid, but at the same time, here’s a truth: No one can do any of it to us unless we allow it to happen. And we only allow it to happen when we are disconnected from ourselves.
When we feel at peace inside, when we trust ourselves and something greater than us (call it your inner God, the Universe, Universal Energy, G-d), we cannot be shaken by others’ actions, and if we are, the feeling is short-lived because we can very fast understand where is it coming from and what is our underlying issue. Once we do, our validation and strength come from within.
The Place to Start Is Inside
Before we can reconnect with others, we must reconnect with ourselves. Seeking answers within us may help:
What do I want at this moment? What am I missing?
What is happening in my life for not having it?
How would my life be if I had it?
Where do I need change, and what small step can I take today?
Close your eyes and imagine that you achieved that that you are longing for. Your life is exactly the way you want it to be. How does it look like? How does it feel? Sense the sounds, the smells, the sensations.
Now, knowing where you want to get to, what is the first step you need to do to get there? Nothing big or grandiose or perfect. Just a small step that will get you closer to your goal.
To get from where you are to where you want to be, the first step is to have a destination. If you are on point A, you need to know what point B is so you can get to it. If not, you’ll be wandering aimlessly, without ever knowing if you got there! The main thing is to give the first step, to start moving. You may change your goal a million times, but every movement, no matter how small, will get you closer to it.
This isn’t about fixing yourself. It’s about walking towards yourself with kindness, curiosity, and courage.
Movement Creates Connection
So, to create change in your life, the first step is movement. Doing things differently than you always do, because you can be sure that doing the same things will keep you where you are, and 10 years from now you will still be sitting on your couch thinking about how to change your life.
The Limbic System’s job (the part of our brain that needs to keep us safe and avoid at all cost for us to take any risk) is for you to stay the same. To never rock the boat.
Your job is to make shifts, big or tiny, to show yourself that it is ok to have new experiences.
You can start small or not. That is totally up to you. You could try this:
Sleep on the other side of the bed
Brush your teeth with your non-dominant hand
Take a different route to work
Talk to someone new at least two times a day
Eat something you’ve never tried
Rearrange a corner of your room
Say yes to something unexpected
Change your dressing style
Wear a different perfume
These tiny changes wake up your nervous system. They invite new energy, new perspectives, and new possibilities. And that may attract different people, and with them, new opportunities.
Connection Is a Practice
We never know where an amazing opportunity will show up, but one thing is certain: it won’t find us sitting on the couch, waiting.
Connection begins with a choice. A choice to move, to explore, to trust yourself. To live in the present and be mindful of every moment, because the one that is gone will never come back!
To show up for yourself, and live the life you deserve and long for. A life that you can also teach to those you love. And every small step you take is a powerful act of self-love.
If you want to know what you are committed to, look at your results!
If what you see does not make you happy, start making changes now!
I’m here to support you find your life purpose and help you rediscover your power within. Stop waiting and asking yourself why life is not happening for you. Take action now and acquire the tools you need to stir your life to where you want it to be!
Give yourself the gift of 10 minutes a day and a lifetime of change
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Silvia
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